DATEABLE
Two dating insiders, a coach and a tech researcher, dissect modern relationship dynamics through personal stories and expert interviews.
A podcast that alternates between two-host deep dives and expert interviews to analyze modern dating's complexities. Hosts Yue Xu (the coach) and Julie Krafchick (the researcher) use their own relationship histories as case studies in their recurring "What We Learned The Hard Way" episodes. They deconstruct common dating frustrations and tropes, aiming to provide a more self-aware, analytical framework for finding a partner.
“The show's unique strength lies in its dual-host dynamic, combining a dating coach's practical guidance with a tech researcher's analytical perspective on human connection. Their willingness to share their own failures and lessons learned creates a relatable, non-judgmental atmosphere that sets it apart from more prescriptive advice shows.”
Who hosts this show
Yue Xu, a dating coach and media personality, and Julie Krafchick, a qualitative researcher from the Silicon Valley tech scene, are the co-hosts of Dateable. Together, they explore modern dating by blending personal experience with expert insights. Their work has been featured in The New York Times, Oprah Daily, and The Huffington Post. In addition to the podcast, they co-hosted the iHeartRadio series "Exit Interview" and co-authored the book "How to be Dateable" (Simon & Schuster, 2025).
Credentials & credits
- Yue Xu: Dating Coach & Founder of Singlefied
- Yue Xu: TV Host/Producer (TechtheLead, The Gadget Show)
- Julie Krafchick: Qualitative Researcher & App Designer
- Julie Krafchick: Founder & CEO, 500 Brunches
- Co-authors, "How to be Dateable" (Simon & Schuster, 2025)
- Co-hosts, "Exit Interview" (iHeartRadio)
Other ventures
- "How to be Dateable" book
- "Exit Interview" podcast
- dateablepodcast.com
- Finding Your Person Program
What kind of podcast
- Country
- United States
- Region
- usa
When new episodes drop
- 01
- 02S22E20: Love Hard On Purpose w/ John KimJun 23, 2026 · 1h 12m
- 03
- 04S22E19: Transitioning Through The Different Seasons Of A RelationshipJun 19, 2026 · 1h 04m
- 05
- 06The trait that will predict everything in a relationshipJun 11, 2026 · 24 min
- 07Right person, wrong time? We think not.Jun 9, 2026 · 24 min
- 08
Notable episodes
- 01S22E20: Love Hard On Purpose w/ John Kim
A representative guest interview with a recurring expert, showcasing their style of using a guest's book as a framework for discussing relationship philosophy.
- 02Why You're Picker Isn't Broken + How To Choose Better Partners
A classic "What We Learned The Hard Way" episode that deconstructs a common dating frustration, blending personal anecdotes with actionable advice.
- 03Why They May Be Ready for Love (But Not A Relationship)
This episode tackles a nuanced and common dating dilemma, showcasing the hosts' ability to distinguish between emotional feelings and relational readiness.
What you'll be asked on this show
Yue and Julie start interviews with a warm, familiar introduction, often noting a guest's previous appearances to build rapport. The conversation is typically structured around the guest's latest work, such as a book, which they use as a jumping-off point for broader topics. They consistently ask guests for personal anecdotes to illustrate theoretical points and push for practical, actionable steps listeners can apply. The hosts actively engage with the material, sharing their own reactions and connecting the guest's ideas back to the common struggles of their audience.
The format is a mix of co-hosted discussions built around a central theme and long-form interviews with authors or therapists. In their discussions, the hosts use their own past relationships as teaching examples and frequently reference concepts from their book. The tone is conversational, supportive, and often humorous, like talking with knowledgeable friends.
Questions the host keeps coming back to
7 cataloguedIf you're going on this show as a guest, expect some version of each of these. Each note explains when the host reaches for it.
origin
1- Q.01
“What was your old definition of love and how has that changed?”
This is often used as an opening question to establish a guest's personal evolution and the core premise of their work.
personal
3- Q.01
“What's a quality you used to be drawn to that you now avoid?”
Used in co-hosted episodes to prompt personal stories about how dating preferences evolve through experience.
- Q.02
“Can you share a past relationship where your expectations of a partner weren't realistic?”
Asks guests to ground a theoretical point in a concrete personal story, making the advice more relatable.
- Q.03
“What is something you and your partner do regularly that is collaborative and works for your relationship?”
Requests a real-world, positive example of the guest's philosophy in their own life, adding credibility.
advice
1- Q.01
“How do we determine how many needs a partner should meet if they can't meet all of them?”
This question seeks to turn a guest's abstract philosophy into actionable advice for listeners navigating compromises.
process
1- Q.01
“How do you co-create and communicate in a relationship without being bound to specifics?”
Pushes guests to provide practical steps for applying their concepts, especially around collaborative communication.
mindset
1- Q.01
“Why do you think it's problematic to hold someone on a pedestal?”
A targeted follow-up question used to dig deeper into a specific point or term a guest has introduced.
Signature segments
- · "What We Learned The Hard Way" episodes
- · Deconstructing dating tropes (e.g., "my picker is broken")
- · Distinguishing love as a feeling vs. love as a behavior
- · Referencing their book "How to be Dateable"
- · The "Perfect Partner Equation"
Topics covered repeatedly
Who gets booked here
The show primarily books authors, therapists, and relationship psychologists, often to coincide with a new book release. Guests like John Kim ("The Angry Therapist") are typically established professionals who can provide a structured framework for understanding dating behaviors and philosophies.
- John Kim ('The Angry Therapist')on S22E20: Love Hard On Purpose w/ John Kim
Where to find this show
Audience & reach
Sponsors include dating apps (Fling), home goods (Ruggable, Quince, Avocado Green Mattress), and romance novels. This mix suggests a core audience of professionally established singles who are actively dating while also investing in their personal and home lives.
Subscriber and view counts are pulled live from YouTube and re-verified on a 30-day cycle. Listener estimates for the RSS feed aren't published here unless they're host-verified.
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People also ask
- Who are the hosts of Dateable?
- The hosts are Yue Xu, a dating coach and media personality, and Julie Krafchick, a qualitative researcher and app designer.
- What is the format of the show?
- It alternates between co-hosted deep dives on specific dating topics and long-form interviews with authors, therapists, and other relationship experts.
- Is the podcast still running?
- Yes, the podcast is active and releases new episodes multiple times a week.
- What other projects are the hosts known for?
- They co-hosted the iHeartRadio show "Exit Interview" and co-authored the book "How to be Dateable," published by Simon & Schuster.
- Where can I listen to the podcast?
- Dateable is available on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio, and other major podcast platforms.
- What makes this podcast different from other dating shows?
- It combines the hosts' distinct backgrounds in dating coaching and tech research to offer a blend of practical advice and analytical insight into modern dating behaviors.
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Sources & how this page was built
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- [01]Official Websitedateablepodcast.com
- [02]About The Hosts | Dateable Podcastdateablepodcast.com
- [03]Yue Xu | Official Publisher Page | Simon & Schustersimonandschuster.com
- [04]Julie Krafchick | Official Publisher Page | Simon & Schustersimonandschuster.com
- [05]Dateable on Apple Podcastspodcasts.apple.com
- [06]Julie Krafchick Profile | Social Psychology Networkkrafchick.socialpsychology.org
- [07]Yue Xu's Official Websiteyuexu.com
- [08]How to Be Date-able with Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu | Evan Marc Katzevanmarckatz.com
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